tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866232958535537541.post1203445031634695818..comments2012-07-22T17:56:35.269-04:00Comments on Silver Bells 'N Cockle Shells: Outliers (Part 2): Why the rich get richerAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06168055404172135055noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866232958535537541.post-10295015073539784922012-05-16T13:50:33.496-04:002012-05-16T13:50:33.496-04:00Roderick, You bring up an interesting point. If, l...Roderick, You bring up an interesting point. If, let's say, your children had worked hard and had been on both chess teams, but were still truly terrible at chess--and they felt that they were still entitled to a place on the high school chess team, then I'd say that's the kind of entitlement that I question. However, if, as you say, your children can prove their worth by winning chess matches, to me that's an inner confidence, not entitlement. Perhaps, though the bigger point here is that Gladwell and I define "entitlement" differently. Thanks for pushing me to clarify.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168055404172135055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866232958535537541.post-40728811138388360552012-05-16T13:44:19.740-04:002012-05-16T13:44:19.740-04:00Kathryn, I've had similar struggles. One yea...Kathryn, I've had similar struggles. One year I was encouraged by a terrific administer to allow students to retake tests until they succeeded. This experiment failed. Students admitted to me that they didn't bother to study for tests and quizzes the first time because they knew if they failed it they could retake it, and maybe they could pass without studying at all the first time. Unfortunately, when students then failed the tests and quizzes, they compound the problem by forgetting to schedule retakes.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168055404172135055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866232958535537541.post-64899928140472859072012-05-15T14:11:45.474-04:002012-05-15T14:11:45.474-04:00Entitlement might not be negative if you feel you ...Entitlement might not be negative if you feel you deserve something after you've payed your dues. <br /><br />My children felt entitled to having positions on the chess team after having spent countless of hours on the elementary and middle school teams and training sessions. They were willing to play against anyone to prove it. They felt the coach would be making a bad decision if they were not on the team.<br /><br />They can be outwardly humble but still feel entitled. Many kids are like this.<br /><br />Maybe this is just inner-confidence and I have it all mixed up? Ha.Roderickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14622249334904847154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-866232958535537541.post-33873566311542873232012-05-14T19:51:30.709-04:002012-05-14T19:51:30.709-04:00Really interesting post, Mary. I might try and in...Really interesting post, Mary. I might try and incorporate some of the "SSLANT" techniques next year--I've struggled with one student this year who has the RUDEST body language and complete lack of manners, and it has dragged me down. If I make a point to teach this stuff then maybe I won't face the same struggles next year.<br /><br />Your comment about entitlement is interesting. I deal with kids who have a sense of entitlement but it's extremely different than the one you're describing. My school has created a culture where students are "entitled" to turn all work in regardless of deadlines (so deadlines really don't exist), retake as many tests as they want, redo as many assignments as they want, etc. It's intended to grade on true understanding but what it's created is a culture of entitlement for our students where they think they can goof off as much as they want and still pick up the slack right at the end. It's amazing how many times these kids will demand extra copies of assignments because they've lost theirs and they know I HAVE to give them more. In their minds, they're entitled to as many second chances as they want--and it's my job to facilitate it. I wish they felt entitled to success but I truly believe they just feel entitled to comfort. There's no push to better themselves--but they've become so accustomed to other people taking care of them, it's not surprising.<br /><br />Thanks for always producing thought-provoking entries!Kathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15607900341192511626noreply@blogger.com